Exactly What I Needed to Read

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
                                                                                                                            ― Marilyn Monroe

I feel like I learned this the hard way, this confidence that says, I'm awesome and I deserve someone who will appreciate that. Sure, I'm not perfect. I get upset and I definitely have my moments of crazy, but they pass, and I'm worth it.

                                                                                                                           - Liz Norris

Via this post from Liz Norris.

I Love This Line

"The bottom line is I never had any business marrying anyone who wasn't you." - Plan B by Jonathan Tropper

Damn Good Advice

Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.



(via HelloGiggles)

Being Grateful

Inspiration about what to do with my life comes from all sorts of places. My most recent revelation is from my weekly email from Shelf Awareness.

It is so easy to complain, whine, bitch and moan. When I read this:

"Bookstores are treasure troves of journals and notebooks (I know this, I have more notebooks than I can count and I always carry one on me). Buy a small journal. Every evening, write down three things you have been grateful for during the day. Bonus points if they are people. Maybe you'll be so busy being grateful that your previous resolutions will just happen. At the very least, you'll be happier, and that's no small accomplishment." Marilyn Dahl, book review editor, Shelf Awareness.

Good point Marilyn, excellent point.

I'm going to try to do this every day.

I'm grateful for:
1. Katie Malone: it was great to have a conversation with and support from one of my high school friends.
2. My H&M gift card I got for Christmas from one of my two awesome roommates because I used it to buy much needed bras. 
3. Mara Kurtz: my GD1 professor. I am learning so much from her and she is a great teacher. My style for sure.
UPDATE: One of my favorite blogs and literary agents, Janet Reid posted about it, too.

Summation

Great Goal

As Cait and I were leaving behind our lovely vacation and hanging out at the airport she said something pretty spot on and wise:

"Let's find a way to make our lives feel more like a vacation."

It's a great goal. I'm aiming for it.

On Happiness

I was in a not-so-great place a couple of months ago and came to the conclusion that I was scared to be happy. Sidebar: I am happy these days :)

My reason?

I don't know how I would handle it if I was unbelievably happy and it all went away.
OR
What would I do if I did everything to be happy but wasn't?

These conclusions lead to several discussions with my close friends. Some friends said that it was common fear; not unusual at all. One friend said that her father told her that she was scared to be happy/wouldn't let herself. Then a very wise friend make a valid point: that it is ridiculous.

Well, she didn't say that exactly.

She basically said that even when you are really happy and all the pieces are in place, something will still come up. That perpetual happiness is a myth. I already knew this and I needed a reminder.

I'm not scared to be happy anymore. I am also taking an active role to do things that make me happy.
Brad Pitt summed it up nicely, too (via THR):

"This idea of perpetual happiness is crazy and overrated, because those dark moments fuel you for the next bright moments; each one helps you appreciate the other," he says. "We are all searching for meaning in our lives, love and betterment for ourselves and those around us."

I Love My Boss

Because when a broker asked where his secretary was he responded, "We don't have secretaries here."

Need a Giggle? A Charming, Fantastic Trailer for Easy A

"A high end stripper like for governors or athletes"



I may have a girl crush on Emma Stone now :). Lucky girl gets to work with Ryan Gosling.

Great Grey's Anatomy Quote

On the subject of acting happy in order to be happy:

" . . . Just want to get real, drop the act and be your true scared unhappy self."